2018 is officially here! This means its time to reflect on the previous year and set some goals for the next. There are many ups and downs in which we have opportunities to learn and grow. This has always been one of my favorite posts to do because so much can happen in a year. I’ve put together a list, which is in no particular order. I hope you enjoy some of things I’ve learned this past year.
1.) When you point a finger, there’s three pointed right back at you.
No matter the situation, odds are you’re at blame too. Blaming others can fall back on your own insecurities. I found it best to think before you speak or act and if you do “lash-out”, own up and make ammends for your actions. Life is too short to hold grudges. It will just stay in your heart and become a bitter part of your soul. Instead listen, think and be forgiving.
2.) Consistency is the key
In all aspects of your life whether it be faith, family, personal, professional, friendship, fitness, leisure, nutritionally, etc….being consistent yields optimal outcomes. Establish S.M.A.R.T goals in all aspects of your life, so you can grow holistically. Many will choose to make a resolution of losing weight this new year, but I can tell you, it will be more challenging if you’re not working on the other aspects of your life. The cool thing is you can always adapt to how your life is changing, review your goals and modify as you see fit.
3.) When you grow in your faith, everything around you grows as well
As a family we gave more than we ever had and even encouraged our oldest son to give as well. It was more than tithing, as we always have. We gave at just about every opportunity that presented itself. Along with tithing, we were reading the bible regularly. There were daily devotionals and children’s bibles, which our oldest has read through over and over again. I read through the New Testament for the first time. Throughout all of this I found that family time was more meaningful, I grew closer to my family and had my best year professionally. Working on my faith helped to put everything into perspective and bring order into my life.
4.) There’s always an abundance of average, you have to make yourself standout
What makes you unique? What sets your apart? These are two questions I’ve found to be consistently evolving the longer I’m in practice. I sometimes get asked by patients – How did you learn this? How do you know what to do? I feel that this is a unique aspect in the quality of care I provide. I strive to “listen” to my patients and answer honestly. I also feel that what sets me apart is educating my patients on the “why” and demonstrating “how” I can help and how “we” can work together. Making patients a part of their care, rather than just receiving care.
5.) Communication is crucial
I’ve really tried to work on effective communication this year. Sometimes I have to remind myself that if a 5 year old can’t understand it, it’s too complicated. Taking this into consideration while also recognizing that everyone needs things explained a different way has really helped.
6.) You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable
When you are working on growing and expanding there are plenty of times where you will doubt what you’re doing and where you will fail. There will also be plenty of times where you will succeed, make progress towards your goal, make new contacts for future expansion, etc. The important thing to remember is what are you striving for, what is your passion? What are the steps you need to take to get there? During these steps you will be uncomfortable and you have to embrace it, recognize the challenges and adapt to conquer them.
7.) What is your time worth?
I had an epiphany this summer/fall with this thought. There were several times when I did something so that I didn’t have to pay someone else to do it. One moment that really stands out is when I mowed the lawn when both my wife and I had the day off and both boys were home with us. I missed out on spending time with them, roughly an hour and a half. That’s time I can’t get back during such precious years of their lives. I read an article that went into this topic the very next day and the author simplified this dilemma with a calculation. How much money do you make in year / how many hours you work in a year = hourly $ amount worth. Ex. If you make $50,000/yr / 2,000 hrs worked = $25/hr. So if you you can pay someone to mow your lawn for $15, let them do it, it’s not worth your time. Instead, enjoy that time with family or whatever else you love doing!
8.) Recognizing that typically the main obstacle is ourselves
More often I find that I’m the reason for things not going as planned, whether it be not quite how I wanted it to be or things aren’t happening as fast as I think they should. Taking a step back, assessing and reevaluating can help you get passed a roadblock majority of the time. For the other times lean on your supporting cast for help.
9.) Always room to grow in your fellowship and friendships
I’ve met a lot of great people, have made several new friends and have become closer friends with many this year. For all of this I’m truly thankful!
10.) The need to establish balance
Balancing family, work, leisure, etc is a real challenge and can generate quite a bit of stress. Figuring out how to deal with it all is a part of life and at times we think we have it all figured out, but we have to remember that it’s okay to ask for help. I’ve had to ask for help and seek advice for various things over the years. Some things that have helped me are incorporating time management strategies, making to-do lists, learning to say “NO” and developing boundaries. I’ve made it a goal for 2018 to make sure neither one gets left out and that each is given the time it deserves.
I hope you enjoyed my top 10 list. If you haven’t already I encourage you to reflect on your 2017 and set some goals for 2018! As always feel free to like, share or leave a comment.
Yours in Health,